{"id":3944,"date":"2017-01-05T01:43:35","date_gmt":"2017-01-04T22:13:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/duzduzani.ir\/en\/?p=3944"},"modified":"2018-07-07T01:51:01","modified_gmt":"2018-07-06T21:21:01","slug":"a-letter-from-a-young-guy-to-his-eminence-and-his-reply-to-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/duzduzani.ir\/en\/a-letter-from-a-young-guy-to-his-eminence-and-his-reply-to-it\/","title":{"rendered":"A letter from a young guy to his eminence and his reply [to it]"},"content":{"rendered":"

A letter from a young guy to his eminence and his reply [to it]<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Pray for me in this period of mourning for the Lord of the Martyrs<\/strong><\/h4>\n

I had started to commit the terrible sin of masturbation since I was 12 years old before I became sexually matureand I became sexually mature when I was 13 years old and from then on I\u2019ve very badly got into the habit of the sin. I\u2019ve tried to break the habit of doing it for 100 times so far, but after two or three months I\u2019ve got back to it. I want to get out of this habit but I can\u2019t.<\/p>\n

I want God to forgive me. I don\u2019t know if he forgives me or not. I\u2019d like to be in good health so that I can study to serve a useful purpose among Ali-Ibne-Abitalib Shiites,butI can\u2019t. I\u2019d like to read Quran, but I can\u2019t. I\u2019d like to pray at midnights like I did in my childhood, but I can\u2019t. I\u2019d like to go to masjid but I can\u2019t.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d like to study, but I can\u2019t. I want to stay away from sins but I can\u2019t. Everybody says to me that you can\u2019t because you don\u2019t want to. I swear to God I want, but I can\u2019t. I want to get out of the habit, but it seems that I am predestined to go to hell. It couldn\u2019t be possible to not go out, it couldn\u2019t be possible to not surf the net, It couldn\u2019t be possible to not go to Sile-ie-Rahim, It couldn\u2019t be possible to not go shopping. Each of these activities could involve sexual excitement for me.<\/p>\n

It has been saidit is Haram to quit doing Sile-ie-Rahim, but whenever I go somewhere or somebody comes to our house, it makes me to commit the sin. It has been said it is Haram to keep yourself aloof from people, but it also makes me to commit the sin either. It has been said if you can enjoin the Ma\u2019ruf and forbid the Munkar or if you can propagate Islam and yet you don\u2019t, it would be Haram so what is Halal in this world? I want to do Siga, but my family sees me as an adulterer.<\/p>\n

I want to give up masturbation so you tell me what do I have to do?<\/p>\n

I\u2019d like to commit suicide, but it is Haram as well. I want to see Imam Zaman but people say \u201cyou are a sinner and it is not possible for you to see him\u201d but isn\u2019t he our Imam or he is just you Ulema\u2019s Imam.<\/p>\n

I want to be Moghalled of someone who is lenient, but people say your Taglid in this way is a futile effort. So what about me? What do I have to do? Nobody helps me. When I ask my friend what should I do, he says \u201cIt\u2019s none of my business, do whatever the hell you like\u201d, and then he says \u201d The one who marries his hand, is damned, and it is a must to stay away from you\u201d so who cares for me to get out of the habit of this sin?<\/p>\n

Who would help me to become a good guy?Who would help me to satisfy Imam Zaman? God knows that people like you who call themselves representatives of God and Imam Zaman don\u2019t care for sinners like me at all, and you just care for beard, Khmos, Zakat, Kharij course and stuffs like that. And you live in a castle nobody can have access to you and all of you have gathered together in Qom as if you go out of there and propagate in the provinces, you would die! Now you see,<\/p>\n

it was impolite of me since I have no patience with anybody any more not God, nor my father, nor my mom, nor my friend, nor Islam and nor divine commands from which, ninety-nine of them are Haram out of each hundred. It\u2019s up to you. If you deem it advisable, if you don\u2019t want to leave me alone, answer my question and don\u2019t make me helpless.<\/p>\n

Ya Ali<\/p>\n

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In His Name<\/strong><\/h4>\n

SalamunAlaikum<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Since you asked your question without preamble, I\u2019ll come straight to the point, my dear, you should consider that the divine commands (especially Haram ones) are meant to be beneficial for the human\u2019s health (mentally, physically, spiritually and publicly healthful). Today, everyone knows that fasting purifies the human body and reduces fat intake. His holiness has said \u201cfast in order to become healthy\u201d.<\/p>\n

The same goes for masturbation to be Haram because it could result in neurasthenia and psychiatric disorder and thus you should consider that human beings themselves take the main advantage of quitting doing Haram.My son, God created human beings as existents free in their actions to choose, thus they can quit doing most of Haram acts by their free will. Man\u2019s determination can put him among the righteous people.<\/p>\n

Again infallible Imam has said \u201cMen\u2019s aspiration uproots mountains\u201d. You do not despair of God\u2019s mercy; God will forgive all of sins. Do not putoff making your decision until tomorrow, not to mention today is too late. You can take place amongst men of God the moment you make your decision. Seek help from Imam Husein (peace be upon him) and his fellowships especially his holiness Qasim who obtained permission to go to the battle field by crying and do not be disappointed.<\/p>\n

If God has decreed that some activities as Haram, there would be some Halal activities which were decreed by god that control human instincts. You do seek help from god to show you the way. You do not be disappointed, remember that God says \u201cman do not have anything but his efforts.<\/p>\n

\u201d Considering the divine commands, we should take note of two kinds of efforts. First, we should try not to get into the habit of a sin and we should do our Wajib practices, Inshallah as you\u2019d quit doing a lot of Haram actsand as you\u2019d do a lot of Wajib practices and second, God forbid if we commit a sin, we do a Haram act or we quit doing Wajib practices in other words, our task would be trying to quit doing that sin and It is our endeavor makes us worthy of divine reward and remuneration. The more the try, the more the reward will be.<\/p>\n

These two efforts are called Jihad-e-Akbar;it means fight with whatever the human being\u2019s inner self commands contrary to the divine commands.Man has to be always in this state and he has to seek help from almighty God in this path and if he passes away in this state, he would die as Mojahid-fi-Sabil-el-Lah and it is hoped that God forgive his sins.Thus seek help from God and do not stop trying to notice sins, do not stop trying to quit doing them and do not despair of God\u2019s infinite mercy.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m also praying for you to make your own fateful decision like Horr who was sullied by the earthly government post at Bani-Omaiia and stood against his Imam Zaman and perhaps he was responsible for Ashoora incident, yet he came back from the brink with making a fateful decision and put himself among martyrs to the cause of God.<\/h4>\n

You wrote about seeing Imam Zaman, but always remember that seeing his holiness is not important. Abu-Sofian, Abu-Lahab and others were seeing his holiness Rasool (peace and blessings be upon him and his progeny), yet they don\u2019t have faith and by the way, this seeing put them at a disadvantage.<\/h4>\n

It is important to not break your spiritual connection with his holiness and you pray for his holiness and his emergence. Be sure his holiness prays for you as well. Do not talk about your sins with anyone but God, why do you reveal what you have done while it has been concealed by God? Almighty God says in the holy Quran \u201cProtect yourself and your family from fire\u201d Everyone has to try to find redemption from Satan and inner self bondage all by themselves and others aren\u2019t able to do anything for you but to pray.<\/p>\n

Again God says to the prophet who wanted to make everyone good \u201cYou do not have mastery over them\u201d. If there were anyone in the world whose glance was able to heal humans or their breath had an effect on humans, they would be the infallibles (peace be upon them), yet some people who were in touch with their holinesses became their enemies.<\/p>\n

The notable example of them was the army that fought with his holiness the Lord of the Martyrs (peace be upon him) and his holiness and his family were martyred by them in spite of repetitive speeches of his holiness. It turns out that everything depends on the man himself and his effort. The task of Ulema and Marajie is to state those divine commands for people who want to act in accordance with the divine commands.<\/p>\n

By the way, I remind you and all young people that you are welcome in my house and there is not any castle here. I\u2019d become happy if you come to see me after going on pilgrimage to the shrine of the Lady Masoome (peace be upon her).<\/h4>\n

There are a lot of things to say which might make you run out of patience and which may be told in another time given the opportunity<\/p>\n

Allah\u2019s mercy be upon you<\/strong><\/p>\n

Muharram-elharam 1431 A.H<\/strong><\/p>\n

Corresponds with Azar 1388 S.H<\/strong><\/p>\n

December 2009<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yadollah Duzduzani<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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